To My Future Mommy: From Your Unborn Child

I may just be a very distant thought in your mind, or I may be close to being created or born.

Whatever point in your life you are at, please sit down and listen to what I have to say.

Please think of me when you choose your lovers, your partners, your spouse. They may become my Daddy someday. They may become my greatest joy, or my worst nightmare.

I will require a whole lot of care, patience and love. Please find someone who is kind and who treats you well.

Please choose someone who respects you and knows how amazing you are. Someone who walks beside you, who knows how to comfort you, who truly loves you. That love will greet me, it will keep me warm just like an amazing soft blanket.

A world without love is a dark, depressing place. Please think about what kind of world you want to bring me into. Please let it be full of love. I don’t need many material things, but I do need you to be happy, my special Mommy.

Please do not stay in a situation where you are being abused, for that will become my destiny. That will become my living hell. That will become my prison, one that I will be unable to escape from. I am an innocent child, I deserve better.

According to the National Children’s Alliance, approximately 700,000 children are abused annually, with about 1,670 of them dying from abuse and neglect.

I do not want to be one of them.

Please understand that any abuse is not your fault. Please understand that there is someone out there who will listen and help you. Please seek them out, and make a plan to leave any abusive environment.

You do not deserve that kind of life and neither do I. You are a good person, you have great worth and deserve to be happy.

PLEASE RUN, DO NOT WALK, FROM ANY ABUSER.

Please take the time to heal your wounds. Please don’t give up. Please continue to walk a new path toward happiness and self-love.

I know it won’t be easy, but I promise it will be worth it.

You may be my future Mommy. Please set yourself free.

And, by doing so, you will prove how much you really love me. You could not bare to bring me into this world and see me abused.

So, you walked away.

And now we are both free.

I cannot wait to meet you, my incredible, brave Mommy. I cannot wait to hear your voice. I cannot wait to be in your arms.

I love you Mommy, and I thank you for all you have done before I was ever even born.

 

Kathy ❤

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You can find help here at The National Domestic Violence Hotline:

http://www.thehotline.org/

Or at The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence:

http://www.ncadv.org/

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The Love Letter I Wish I Didn’t Have to Write

Sunday is Valentine’s Day. The twelfth one I will spend with my husband. We are so lucky that we met. We are so lucky that we are still together. But, I wish things were different.

Here is my love letter to him:

To my kind, smart, funny, patient and geeky husband,

We met in geek heaven. You were my loyal Samwise Gamgee, I was your elusive Elven Queen. We planned on spending many happy and healthy years together, despite me having a few health problems such as Interstitial Cystitis, Endometriosis and Asthma. We had lots of energy when we met, we had lots of plans.

We had a child quickly due to our age. We tried to have a second one for five years. You stood by me throughout my five miscarriages. You cared for me and our beautiful daughter when I did not have the energy to do it myself. You helped mend my broken heart.

You were there to exuberantly welcome our son. You stuck by me while I sorted out my Pre Menstrual Dysmorphic Disorder post pregnancy.

You always kept up hope that things would get better. That my health would improve enough for us to start planning things and start living again.

Then disaster struck in the form of Lyme Disease. For the last 2 1/2 years, it has been our Mordor. Difficult to navigate, impossible to climb. We felt like little Hobbits alone in the wilderness, and like Samwise, you never left your Frodo’s side.

I wouldn’t have blamed you if you did. I understand the sacrifice you make every single day to be with me. It is very hard on you having to work full time, be my caretaker, and help take care of our two young children.

It sometimes takes its toll. I can see it in your eyes. I can tell how tired you are. I wish I could lift your burden. I can’t wait for the day when I am able to.

You fight to keep hope alive for me and for our children. You strive to keep making us laugh, when you probably feel sad inside. You brought me many meals while I lay in bed for nearly a year. You bring me my medicine. You are my lifeline. You are my best friend.

Sometimes Obi Wan, you are my only hope.

When I grew up, I dreamed of the man on the white horse. I longed to meet my prince, my Sydney Carton, my Romeo, my Aragorn. Men who would love me more than anything else in the world. Men who would protect me and do almost anything for me. Men who would give their lives for me.

But none of those fictional heroes could hold a candle to you.

You prove to me on a daily basis what a true hero is. He is not from a work of literature, he is not a big action movie star, he does not have to be bigger than life.

He just has to be like you. Genuine, compassionate, faithful, flawed, and wonderful.

You prove to me daily what true love is. It is not flowers, it is not gifts or chocolates.

It is loving someone with every inch of your soul, without losing sight of yours. It is moving on from other things, and opening up new doors. It is sharing in their joy, and helping them through their pain. It is helping them see the bright side of things, throughout the constant rain. It is hope for the future, and nostalgia for the past. It is sticking by someone’s side, and making your love last. It is baby steps, and windy roads. It is full of light, and heavy loads. It is endless happiness, and times of tears. It is how I intend, to spend the rest of my years.

I am sorry that I do not currently live up to the expectations that I set for myself as your wife. I did not intend to suffer from so many chronic illnesses. But I did intend to love you with all of my heart.

I do intend to get better. I do intend to make many things up to you when I do. I do look forward to that day.

But for now, I want you to know I notice all of the things you do for me. I know how much you sacrifice to make me happy. I know that you silently pray at night for me to feel better, and for my pain to end. I know you wish you could take it away.

I see it, feel it, hear it and treasure all of it. Even though I do not always acknowledge it.

I am writing this letter to show my appreciation for all that you have done for me, and all that you will do for me.

I hope you know how much I love and admire you. I hope you know how glad I am that I chose you to be my husband. I hope you know what a great father you are.

I am the luckiest woman in the world.

Happy Valentine’s Day.